Sunday, February 8, 2009

Small Group

We had our small group meeting yesterday at my house. I had a good time. I hope everyone else did. But guess what I found out? Chris (one of my guests) has a five year old daughter that had gastroschesis too! While Daniel was in the hospital for only a month, his little girl was in the hospital for 3. But it sounds like her condition was worse than his. Anyway, he was told that this was a super-rare birth defect and that his daughter's condition was so bad that she would never be normal, then told them they should either have an abortion (can you believe it?) or allow cameras from some women's cable network to follow them around. Needless to say they rejected both offers. After her time in the hospital, they brought her home, and she is perfectly fine and normal. No lasting problems. You know, I wonder how many people have abortions because their all-knowing doctor tells them that they are not going to be "normal", but then end up aborting people that would have turned out just fine. I wondered that at the time I had Daniel too. He was such a great baby and I wouldn't want to imagine my life without him now. Interesting developments.

6 comments:

Hoba Chi said...

I think that you hit onto something, Mary. Sometimes I think it is God's way of making a miracle and testing faith. I have heard more than a few stories where the doctor insisted that an abortion was the only thing to do. The parents prayed, decided against it and the baby was fine.

Hoba Chi said...

I also think that God can make things that we thought impossible possible.

Hoba Chi said...

Oops the second comment was Timpani, the first comment was Erik.

Anonymous said...

Fortunately, my OB/GYN was a pro-life doctor when I had Daniel and knew I wouldn't even consider abortion. She said that she had many, especially Indian, patients that wanted to know the moment that something was wrong so they could have an abortion. In Hinduism if there's something wrong with a person it's because of bad karma - they did something wrong in a past life. So they wouldn't want to have a baby with bad karma. It makes me wonder how many times there's been a mistake, and a perfect baby has been murdered. I wonder if karma would come back on those mothers?

M

Bruce said...

you mean like crushing gilt and a chance at eternal damnation. if that is what you ment then i think the answer is yes.

Mary said...

Well, I doubt that guilt would come until the eternal damnation does, because they really believe that stuff. But, yeah, that's what I mean. You know, when I had my miscarriage, they did a doppler and didn't hear the baby's heart beat so they did an ultrasound. When couldn't find the heart beat, they concluded that the baby was dead. They set me up for a D&C a couple of days later. I felt pregnant (I was only 10 weeks along, so nauseous and fatigued etc...) up until they took the baby, whereupon it all stopped immediately. I still wonder if there had been a mistake. Even though they had the baby analyzed to find out why I miscarried and found out that there was a real genetic problem with the baby, I still wonder sometimes if there had been a mistake, and if I would have carried that baby to term.